Divorce will bring many changes to your life. Some are expected, such as no longer living with your spouse, and needing to assume many of the duties and responsibilities your spouse may have handled when you were married. Some may be not-so-expected. But the more you think through those potential changes before your divorce is final, the better you can set your expectations and those of others.
One reason you want to work with an attorney during a divorce is their experience. They have gone through the process many times. Maybe not personally, but as an attorney they are likely to have handled many divorces. And not only is their perspective not clouded by emotions of sadness or anger, they have the advantage of having seen the process multiple times.
Most divorce agreements in Missouri are negotiated settlements between the two parties. Divorces are typically settled because going through with a courtroom trial can be very time consuming and expensive. Since the economic consequence of a divorce can be sufficiently problematic, there are few instances where a trial would be seen as cost effective.
A mother, after a divorce, put it this way, declining to label it on the dichotomy of good/bad, she said, "It is a recognition that what existed is irretrievably broken and that something else must be built in its place." She had to children and after a short marriage, she and her husband realized their relationship was "irretrievably broken."
Divorce is always a paradox of the similar and the very different. Every divorce in Missouri involves two parties who wish to separate their lives from each other. Some require litigation, some are amicable. In some cases, the divorce can help the children by lessening the tension and stress and in others, it makes little difference as the couple continues their battles through the courts.And some are beyond words. It is unclear exactly what is going on a divorce involving a couple and their three children in Michigan. At one point this summer, the judge had the three children placed in a juvenile detention facility to enforce one of her orders involving their meeting with their father for lunch.
A modern marriage contains many contradictions. It is now seen more as a meeting of equals, with similar interests, tastes and for many, incomes. Yet many relationships still maintain elements of the Eisenhower-era, and women still carry on with much of the traditional domestic duties in the household, sometimes in spite of their working outside the home.
The recent revelations of the data breach from Ashley Madison, a website used to facilitate marital infidelity, may cause significant problems for millions of couples. For an unhappy spouse, finding your husband or wife had an account may prove to be the tipping point, triggering the filing of divorce papers in a Missouri family court.
There are few issues related to divorce that are not complex. The legal issues are always complex and carry long-term consequence. As an example, your parenting plan, especially if you have young children, could control many aspects of you and your children's lives for the next dozen or more years. While it can be modified, that too, will require a trip back to the Family Court here in Columbia.